So, You’re Not Dating. What Are You Doing In The Mean Time?

Wake up. Go to work. Come home. Watch some TV. Go to bed. Wake up.  Does that sound familiar? It may if you are single and haven’t found” mr. or mrs. right”. This round of monotony is a pattern practiced by many who are longing to find someone special they can spend their time with.

I know a few people that have been caught in this whirlpool of self doubt, lack of motivation, and inactivity. In fact, I have been there too, in the past. It’s not fun. And part of the reason why it’s not fun is that its not productive at all. There is nothing that is being accomplished that gives you any level of satisfaction.

Many people get discouraged when they can meet someone. They may go to clubs, out to eat, even the gym, and still, no luck. Their efforts seem in vain and they start to think that there is something actually wrong with them. The real problem here is that it does start to show.

You can’t seem to meet a person that you’re interested in. Even if you do see someone interesting or even meet them, you don’t have a whole lot to offer because you have lost all confidence in yourself and your ability. Or, as some have found, you can’t seem to get anyone to be interested in you. So, what can be done?

Take control of the only thing you really have control of. Namely, you. The only thing that you can actually control in the whole universe is your choice. That’s it. You can’t control who speaks with you at the club or at work. You can’t control whether your car starts or it doesn’t. You can’t control whether your favorite restaurant has your favorite food on the menu. There is truly only one thing that you have direct control over at all.

Start exercising that control by starting to exercise for yourself. Not just to meet someone. Not the cute guy or girl that’s on the elliptical. Start a fitness program that leads you step by step through to an objective, whether that’s weight loss or building muscle. If you start with this in small steps you will reap huge results.

First of all, you won’t feel as though you are wasting your time. An exercise program is inherently productive. It satisfies human needs on so many different levels. A regular exercise program will lower blood pressure, reduce the risk or effects of diabetes, reduce your body fat, make your clothes fit better, increase your self esteem, change the way that you carry yourself, change the way people see/view you, and so on. Plus there is one more thing that exercising for yourself will do for you.

Exercising for yourself and whatever goals you choose, will actually give you something to talk about with the opposite sex (or the same for that matter). Look at it this way, you’ve gone to the store to get some gatorade, or protein powder, or even workout clothes. You see someone attractive in the store and approach them…”Hey, do you think that the material of this workout shirt really does keep you cooler and dryer or do you think I should just buy cotton? No, tell me what you think. Really. I have been doing this cool exercise routine that I started because of…”, or, “Have you ever bought this type of exercise bar/protein powder before? Do you know where they might be cheaper? I tend to go through a lot because I have this exercise routine that I am totally committed to and when I eat heavy I can’t do it as well”.

The point is that my lame scenarios may be a little over the top but the fact of the matter is this: You actually have a genuine, authentic topic to use as an entry that also makes you look even better than if you were just standing in line to buy some SaranWrap. Although, someone could also strike up a conversation about that I suppose.

Starting an exercise routine gives you purpose. It gives you direction. It gives you structure. It gives you something that can be spoken of with an aire of confidence, rather than you only having the wake up, go to work….story that no one will be interested in.

Look around for a good workout program. Start reaping the benefits today.

Many singles are out trolling for dates. A lot of time is wasted at clubs, bars, events, and etc.

Why not spend part of that time more productively and start working out at home. Do body weight exercises.

This will give you something to talk about when you do meet someone. Everyone loves fitness whether we are fit or not. Some people, however, do not like the superficiality of the health club or gym setting. But, if working out at home, you won’t have to worry about either one. Gym rats will love the fact that you’re working out and the more cerebral will appreciate the fact that you are doing it in a more natural and minimalistic way.

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